This is a topic that I, unfortunately, know all too well. Where to start? Well, motherhood is hard, being a good mom and having mom guilt is a real thing! I think as mothers we are sold this unrealistic dream of what being a mother is going to be like. Everyone wants to tell you the good, beautiful, happy moments and experiences they’ve had but no one wants to tell you the real shit! Yes, you read that right I said “shit”. A little side note here, this journey is unfiltered so if you decide to join me through this (as I hope you do) then just know I may drop a bomb every so often). Back to all the mushy stuff people sell us about motherhood……WHY do we not talk about the hard parts of being a mom? WHY is it so hard for us as woman to normalize the fact that being a mom is just as beautiful as it is hard?
Please don’t misinterpret my message here. I have two handsome boys that I love to death. I literally couldn’t imagine my life without them BUT both are so different and neither of them are perfect miniature humans that only bring me bliss, joy, and happiness. Almost 11 years ago my first son was born, fast forward to 3 years ago and my second son was born. Everyone told me how wonderful it was going to be, but no one told me “Hey some days its going to be hard, some days you’re going to feel like a failure and that’s OK”. The reality is that it is okay for us as mothers not to always be OK! I’m here today to tell the woman reading this that you don’t always have to have it all together. It’s ok if you forget that it was Ice Cream Day at school or decided to send your kid to school with $5 for lunch because you were just too exhausted at the end of the day to hand make their lunch with all their favorite snacks. We are so hard on ourselves when we tend to forget that we are also just human. Maybe today we are humans with superpowers and tomorrow we are a human that needs a 2-hour nap to get through the day and that’s OK!
When you have that moment of “mom guilt” take a few minutes grab a piece of paper or pull up the Notes App on your phone and list out 8 things that you did for your kids in the last 24 hours and then list out 8 things you did for yourself in the last 24 hours. I am confident to say that most of us won’t have a 8:8 ratio! Go get yourself a snack, take a deep breath and remind yourself how amazing you are because the reality is your killing it at this whole mom thing.
XOXO
-CPH
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